Healing from Divorce: A Message to Single Parents and Their Children

  Life doesn’t always unfold the way we expect, and sometimes, families take different paths. As someone who grew up as a single father’s daughter, I know this firsthand. My parents divorced when I was only ten, and at that age, I couldn’t understand anything. I believed it was my brother’s fault, and yes, I did blame him. It was childish of me, but I didn’t know any better.

As I got older, I started to accept things—at least, most of them. But not all.

My dad took on the role of both parents, cooking for us and raising us the best he could. He worked hard and eventually built his own business, becoming successful in his own way. I used to think that if my dad ever remarried, I would hate it. But now, I want him to. I want him to live his own life.

Looking back, I realize I was like a wall that stopped him from moving forward, from being happy. It’s a painful thought—that I might have held him back. At my lowest points, I even had weird and dark thoughts. I wondered, Why am I living like this? But with time, I healed. Now, almost fifteen years later, I believe I have grown, and I am okay.

To Single Parents: We See You

Raising children alone is no easy task. The sacrifices, the late nights, the worries about whether your child will be okay—it’s a lot. But I want you to know that your love and effort don’t go unnoticed. Even if your child doesn’t fully understand right now, one day they will.

Children struggle with emotions just as much as you do, if not more. They are confused, lost, and sometimes they place the blame in the wrong places. But that doesn’t mean they don’t love you. Give them time. Keep showing them love. And most importantly, don’t forget to live your own life too. You deserve happiness just as much as they do.

To the Kids: You’re Not Alone

If you are a child of divorced parents, I want you to know that your life isn’t broken. You still have people who love you. Even if it doesn’t feel that way right now, I promise that things will get better. If you ever feel lost, if you ever feel like you’re drowning in thoughts you can’t control, reach out. You don’t have to go through it alone.

If you need someone to talk to, I’m here. Feel free to email me: junichicore@gmail.com

Divorce changes families, but it doesn’t mean love disappears. It just takes a different form. And sometimes, it takes time to see it. But one day, you will.

Haru💁