How to Make Yourself Happy (Without Selling Your Soul or Eating All the Ice Cream... Maybe)

Okay. Let’s be real.

Sometimes happiness feels like trying to find your other sock in the laundry. You know it was there five minutes ago, but now it has vanished into another dimension. Similarly, your happiness was right there before that one text, that one awkward moment, or that one spoonful of reality hit you.

But fear not, fellow human disaster—I come bearing mildly unprofessional advice, sprinkled with humor and possibly a few emotional support snacks.

Step 1: Lower Your Expectations

Let’s just start with a classic. Want to be happy? Expect less.
No, seriously. Lower them like you're doing the limbo at a party where everyone’s too tired to care.

Want a reply from your crush? Don’t expect one.
Want to get rich by the time you’re 25? Lower it to 85.(I'm 24 this year and I still live with my dad)
Want to be productive today? Celebrate brushing your teeth.

Surprise happiness > disappointment.

Step 2: Feed Yourself Something Delicious

You know what joy tastes like? French fries.
Or noodles. Or kiribath. Or literally anything that doesn’t come with guilt and emotional baggage.

Cook something, order something, or rob your sibling’s snack stash (with love). Your taste buds are mini happiness factories. Use them wisely.

Bonus tip: eat with your hands sometimes. Happiness level = caveman joy.

Step 3: Take a Nap Like a Boss

Sleep solves 99% of problems.
Sad? Nap.
Angry? Nap.
Want to escape adulting for 40 minutes? Nap.

Not sleeping enough makes your brain run like a broken Wi-Fi connection. So go lie down, look at the ceiling dramatically, and disappear into the void. Wake up mildly confused but mysteriously happier.

Step 4: Dance Like Nobody’s Watching (Because No One Is, Chill)

Put on your favorite ridiculous song. I don’t care if it’s K-pop, ABBA, or "Barbie Girl."
Close the door. Shake what your mama gave you. (You dont need permission to dance-BTS)

You don’t need rhythm. You need movement. Shake your sadness out like you're trying to dry yourself without a towel. Laugh at your own terrible moves. You are a majestic mess, and that’s beautiful.

Step 5: Mute Toxic People

Click. Mute. Bye.
That friend who only calls to talk about themselves?
That account that makes you feel like a potato in comparison?
Mute them like your peace depends on it. Because it does.

Your happiness is not a community project. Protect your vibe like it’s made of glass and glitter.

Step 6: Romanticize the Small Stuff

Take a sip of your tea and pretend you're in a drama.
Wash your face like you’re the main character in a K-drama flashback.
Buy yourself one flower. Just one. Look at it dramatically. Whisper, “You’re all I need.”

Be your own overly dramatic love story. It sounds silly—but it works.

 Step 7: Talk to Yourself (But Not Like a Crazy Villain)

Say nice things to yourself. Out loud.
“Hey. You didn’t cry before 10 a.m. today. I’m proud of you.”
“Look at you! Alive and not setting anything on fire!”

If no one’s going to hype you up, be your own hype squad. Bonus points if you do it in front of a mirror and wink.

 Final Thoughts: Happiness is Weird

Happiness isn’t a one-time coupon. You don’t earn it and store it forever.
It’s small. It’s daily. It’s a good meme, a silly walk, a snack you forgot you had.
It’s forgiving yourself for not being okay 24/7.
It’s trying.

So go. Wear mismatched socks. Laugh too loudly. Make weird faces in selfies. Cry a little, then laugh at how dramatic you are.

You’re not broken. You’re just human. And humans are hilarious.

With unwashed hair and a heart full of hope,
HARU 🌈